I was replying to you, FB, sometimes the reply button here doesnt tag the person I’m replying too! 
Yeah, Im with you in drum programming terms. Its a ballache. Similarly, that quantizing thing I do too, but then I have a horrible tendency to do what a real drummer would do but doing manually, note by note, midi date point by midi data point, instead of actually playing it, and its a silly complicated method I find. It gets a real feel going sometimes, and it locks the bass and drums but having to pay attention to each parts feel in such detail is time consuming and project destroying.One thing I try and do is urgent or laidback, before the grid or after the grid.
After years of doing this (public results arent great as I give up a lot because its too bogged down in minutiae) I can kinda hear when things are getting a bit robotic, compared to the groove of a real drummer, but my hearing is more on it than my eyes and hands in actually doing a project 
And similarly, while I dont play drums, I have been considering ways around doing the programming by hand, and I think some sort of small e-kit part is my conclusion too. I thnk for me it might be the KMI BopPad as a solution. Even finger drumming, nothing is the same as a stick and gravity for ‘real’ live type playing.
Its so tiring hand programming tiny drum rolls and fills to sound just like a drummer would hit the skins. And Im not a drummer, and dont really understand the first thing about fills and timing etc so its even more confusing for me 
Anyway, the track sounded great! I will def listen to more.
Totally off topic from that conversation, I made a video for the track I posted above. All AI generated art… This is, yet again, another one where I got bogged down in drum programming and gave up/abandoned it 
EDIT: Also, hiring a drummer online, thats something I’ve done before to get round all this programming. I then got bogged down in re-creating his drums in BFD… and got stuck again 